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The Way of Non-Attachment

Q: I understand that Buddhism is unique in its concept of God.

A: Buddhism does not see God as the creator. That's why we don't often use the word "god," because it's not as though there's a Being that's creating everything we see around us.

To the Buddhist way of looking, creation is just karma. When something good happens to you, it's not God, and when something bad happens to you, it's not God. It's cause and effect, but there's no way you can find a beginning, a "first cause." Imagine that science came up with proof of the Big Bang. You still would want to know what caused the Big Bang. You can never come to a beginning.

What Buddhism would call God is this: When you find out what the real nature of things is, you find something sacred, something Divine that's the common ground of everything — that's the real source of everything.

But Buddhism never gives you an answer to the question of what created the world, because it's not considered a question there's an answer to. If you knew what created it, you'd still have to ask, What created that?

Q: What is the essence of Buddhist practice?

A: Buddhist practice is designed to teach us to let go of asking for something, or anything.

Q:  "To be without desire."

A:  Yes.

Q:  "To be without desire."And how can you achieve that unless you desire to be without desire. Isn't that kind of a Catch-22?

A:  Not really. You just let go, and all will find it's place. You can't stop the mind. You can't stop desire. All you can do is just keep coming back to stillness. The whole point of Buddhist practice is to be still and let go of things.

Since the desire to be at peace can make you unpeaceful, all you can do is just accept wherever you are, whatever is there, and not get caught up in it. All you can do is let go.

You can't make yourself not angry, but you can let go of harboring the angry thoughts. You can't stop wanting ice cream, but you can stop thinking about it by thinking about something else. You can't stop yourself from wanting to feel peaceful, but that's just another thought, like everything else, that you let go of.

You can have all kinds of thoughts that come up. If you don't give them energy, they fade away on their own.

Q: I understand that Buddhism looks at Four Noble Truths. Could you explain those to us, please.

A: Buddha came to the conclusion that all human suffering was caused by attachment. So the First Noble Truth is: "Suffering exists." And the Second Noble Truth is: "We only suffer when we ask for something to be different than it is."

The Third Noble Truth tells us that "Nirvana exists."

Q: The opposite of suffering.

A: Yes. To say Nirvana exists means there can be a cessation of suffering. And since suffering is caused by desiring things to be different, if you let go of desire, you find Nirvana. You find out that what you want is already there, and that it's what all Beings long for.

The Fourth Noble Truth is that there is an Eight-Fold Path, and that path is basically Buddhist training. Through the Eight-Fold Path, you can find Nirvana.

Q: Do all Buddhists follow the Eight-Fold Path.

A: No, not today. There are many different pathways. It's different in Tibet, different in Japan... Not every practice works for everybody. That's natural.
Here, we're in a meditation tradition. What we emphasize is a meditation technique in which you just try to be still and present and aware. We simply focus on stillness.

Other traditions, like Nichiren, use chanting or repetition of a mantra. The central practice of Pure Land Buddhism, for example, involves repetition of Namo Amitabha Buddha (Homage to the Buddha of Boundless Compassion and Wisdom).

So Buddhism is not so much a religion as it is a path. That's what the Buddha said. It's a way to help Beings find the truth.

Q: And the truth is?

A: And the truth is?The truth is that everything that really matters is always there and doesn't ever change. If you let go, there's always joy there. And that's something that nothing can really stop. No condition can really stop it. When we stop clinging, there's joy.
Reality is a story we are always telling ourselves. When we feel lousy, it's because we are telling ourselves a lousy story, a story about how bad it's going to be, how depressing it is. Asking ourselves, "Why is this happening to me?"

But Buddhism doesn't attempt to answer that question, because it's not a question we can know the answer to. It simply asks us to cease from evil — from acts that cause increase of suffering — and to do good and purify our hearts.

Q:So where does "belief" or "faith" enter in?
A:From a Buddhist point of view, you can believe that green goblins control the universe if you want. It doesn't matter. As long as you live in ways that promote good and provide service, you'll do okay.

It's not what you believe. It's what you do.

The Eight-fold Path:
  1. Right Understanding Learning the nature of reality and the truth about life.
  2. Right Aspiration Making the commitment to living in such a way that our suffering can end.
  3. Right Effort Just Do It. No Excuses.
  4. Right Speech Speaking the truth in a helpful and compassionate way.
  5. Right Conduct Living a life consistent with our values.
  6. Right Livelihood Earning a living in a way that doesn’t hurt others.
  7. Right Mindfulness Recognizing the value of the moment; living where we are.
  8. Right Concentration Expanding our consciousness through meditation.

How To Make Anyone (And Everyone) Want You

There are some people who just have it. You know, that thing...

They illuminate a room. Eyes follow them. The spotlight naturally and effortlessly is drawn to them.

What's their secret? I know, and I'm going to tell you.

It's called soul.

People who embody soul are irresistible. Seriously irresistible. Like, I-can't-take-my-eyes-off-you irresistible. Uh huh, it's that good.

Soulful individuals are always being pursued. People flock to them. They look good, they feel good; they've got that thing.

Guess what? You can have that thing, too. In fact, you already have it. You just have to tap in and let it shine. That's what this article is going to teach you to do.

Here are four easy steps to embody your soul and light up a room. Get ready to turn some heads.

1. Center.

The quality of being centered is strong and peaceful; assured and graceful; aligned and free.

It feels heavenly to be around centered people because these qualities are so desirable to us. They also aren't the norm.

We live in a fast-paced, frazzled world, so being a pillar of peace is an oasis in a very dry desert. If you flow with grace and ease, no doubt people will be drawn to flow with you.

So how do you do it?

Easy. You practice.

Whether it's meditation (focus on your breath), mindfulness (focus on the now), or just paying attention to what is happening in the present moment, these practices will lead you to embody a sense of calm and ease.

People will take note. It's a slight shift with a big impact. Train yourself to be here now and watch how others respond to your aura of grace.

2. Be grateful. 

The reason gratitude is paramount in attracting others is because it aligns you with a state of abundance. Abundance overflows – it wants to share. When you're overflowing with good vibes, others will flock by your side.

Think about it. How does it feel to be around people who are grateful; people who are happy, free-spirited, and gracious? Pretty nice, right?

Gratitude overflows. It's light, joyful, and yummy. When you feel grateful, you become one with this delectable energy; it's an absolute people magnet!

Embody your soul by getting your gratitude on. Relish all the beautiful things you encounter during your day, feel it before you go to sleep, and be thankful whenever possible. This practice will greatly increase your personal magnetism, guaranteed.

3. Live your truth. 

People with that thing have confidence. Not inflated confidence; not narcissism. It's a deep confidence. Faith.

They know what they want, and they know that they're going to get it. This type of unwavering conviction is extremely attractive to us because it's what we all want, too.

We all want to know. We all want to be certain. We all want to believe. Therefore, those who live in this manner are utterly irresistible to us.

When someone speaks with conviction, we listen. We may not like what they're saying, but we'll listen. Conviction draws a crowd.

Guess what? You have conviction, too. You may not be aware of it, but you do. It comes in the form of your intuition, your higher self, your truth.

There's a voice that lives inside you; it's not in your head, it's in your heart. When you listen to this voice you'll be guided in the direction you're supposed to go. And as life unfolds the way you want as a result of listening to this voice, you'll have found your truth.

There's nothing more captivating than a person on their path. Listen to what the real you has to say, then follow through. People will always be drawn to you as a result to being true to yourself.

4. LOVE.

Love. Just love.

Love your city. Love your home. Love your food. Love your dreams. Love your people. Love.

Love the things that are easy to love, and stretch to love the things that aren't.

When you love fearlessly, you beam. You're a light in the storm. You're a smile in the crowd. You're a breath of fresh air.

Love is that thing.

Involve your heart in all that you do and people won't be able to take their eyes off you.

Make a commitment right now to embody your soul – to be the most irresistible version of you. Center, feel grateful, live your truth and love your heart out, and you will, without a shadow of a doubt, become a magnet to everyone who has the privilege of basking in your light.

What is a limiting belief?

Are you familiar with the famous flea training story?
As Zig Ziglar tells it, fleas do only two things – jump, and ride dogs. To train a flea you just put it in a jar, and put a lid on the jar (with air holes of course!). The flea will jump and hit the lid of the jar. Repeatedly. Jump – bam! Jump – bam! – jump – bam!
The flea may do this for an hour or more, but eventually he’ll come to believe that jumping as high as he is capable results in pain. Well, he’s still got to jump because that’s what fleas do, but in order to avoid pain he’ll stop jumping quite so high.
At that point your flea is trained. You can remove the jar lid and the flea won’t jump out. Why not? He is still capable of jumping high enough to get out of the jar. However, he can’t escape the jar now because he no longer understands the difference between a real limitation (the lid) and a self-limiting belief (jumping too high equals pain).
Sad, isn't it? The only thing that has changed is that the flea has altered his behavior because of his limiting belief. Because of that, he is now trapped in the jar for the rest of his life.

What Limiting Beliefs Are Holding You Back?

Answering that question is key to breaking through to the life you really want. A great test is to make a "Can't" list, a list of what you "know" you can't do and why. Complete the following sentence for everything that comes to mind:
I can't ____________ because _____________.
Pay attention to what comes after the word "because". That's your own little inner voice telling you that there is a reason this is impossible, and that's what keeps you from being open to any possibility. If a great idea hit you over the head you would instantly dismiss it because you have already decided it's hopeless!

What Are Some Common Limiting Beliefs?

The list is endless! To give you an example, here are a few that relate to money:
• Money is the root of all evil.
• It's not right for me to be rich while so many others have nothing.
• If I didn't work hard for it, I don't deserve it.
• All rich people are __________ (greedy, corrupt, selfish ... fill in the blank).
Get the idea? Now look back at your "Can't" list. Most of our limiting beliefs have to do with somehow feeling hopeless, helpless, useless (it isn't worth the effort because it won't work anyway), worthless (I don't deserve it), or blameless (your situation is always the fault of someone or something else).

How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs?

Once you discover your own self-limiting beliefs, all you have to do is stop accepting them as truths. It's that simple. However, that doesn't mean it's easy because:

We acquire many of our limiting beliefs as children. These thought patterns are lifelong "habits", deeply ingrained in us.

Most limiting beliefs are operating on a subconscious level.

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