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Tao Te Ching Verse One
[原文]
道可道也①,非恒道也②。名可名也③,非恒名也。无名④,万物之始也;有名⑤,万物之母也⑥。故恒无欲也⑦,以观其眇⑧;恒有欲也,以观其所徼⑨。两者同出,异名同谓⑩。玄之又玄⑾,众眇之门⑿。
The Tao that can be spoken is not the eternal Tao
The name that can be named is not the eternal name
The nameless is the origin of Heaven and Earth
The named is the mother of myriad things
Thus, constantly without desire, one observes its essence
Constantly with desire, one observes its manifestations
These two emerge together but differ in name
The unity is said to be the mystery
Mystery of mysteries, the door to all wonders
[译文]
“道”如果可以用言语来表述,那它就是常“道”(“道”是可以用言语来表述的,它并非一般的“道”);“名”如果可以用文辞去命名,那它就是常“名”(“名”也是可以说明的,它并非普通的“名”)。“无”可以用来表述天地浑沌未开之际的状况;而“有”,则是宇宙万物产生之本原的命名。因此,要常从“无”中去观察领悟“道”的奥妙;要常从“有”中去观察体会“道”的端倪。无与有这两者,来源相同而名称相异,都可以称之为玄妙、深远。它不是一般的玄妙、深奥,而是玄妙又玄妙、深远又深远,是宇宙天地万物之奥妙的总门(从“有名”的奥妙到达无形的奥妙,“道”是洞悉一切奥妙变化的门径)。
[注释]
①第一个“道”是名词,指的是宇宙的本原和实质,引申为原理、原则、真理、规律等。第二个“道”是动词。指解说、表述的意思,犹言“说得出”。
②恒:一般的,普通的。
③第一个“名”是名词,指“道”的形态。第二个“名”是动词,说明的意思。
④无名:指无形。
⑤有名:指有形。
⑥母:母体,根源。
⑦恒:经常。
⑧眇(miao):通妙,微妙的意思。
⑨徼(jiao):边际、边界。引申端倪的意思。
⑩谓:称谓。此为“指称”。
⑾玄:深黑色,玄妙深远的含义。
⑿门:之门,一切奥妙变化的总门径,此用来比喻宇宙万物的唯一原“道”的门径。
[引语]
老子破天荒提出“道”这个概念,作为自己的哲学思想体系的核心。它的涵义博大精深,可从历史的角度来认识、也可从文学的方面去理解,还可从美学原理去探求,更应从哲学体系的辩证法去思维……
哲学家们在解释“道”这一范畴时并不完全一致,有的认为它是一种物质性的东西,是构成宇宙万物的元素;有的认为它是一种精神性的东西,同时也是产生宇宙万物的泉源。不过在“道”的解释中,学者们也有大致相同的认识,即认为它是运动变化的,而非僵化静止的;而且宇宙万物包括自然界、人类社会和人的思维等一切运动,都是遵循“道”的规律而发展变化。总之,在这一章里,老子说“道”产生了天地万物,但它不可以用语言来说明,而是非常深邃奥妙的,并不是可以轻而易举地加以领会,这需要一个从“无”到“有”的循序渐进的过程。
[评析]
在这一章里,老子重点介绍了他的哲学范畴——“道”。道的属性是唯物的还是唯心的?这是早已存在的一个问题,自古及今,它引起许多学者的浓厚兴趣。在历史上,韩非子生活的时代距离老子比较近,而且他是第一个为《道德经》作注的学者。关于什么是道,在《解老》中,韩非子这样说:“道者,万物之所(以)然也。万理之所稽也。理者成物之文也。道者万物之所以成也。故曰道,理之者也。”这表明,韩非子是从唯物的方面来理解老子的“道”的。在《史记》中,司马迁把老子与韩非子列入同传(还附有庄子、申不害),即认为韩、庄、申“皆原于道德之意,而老子深远矣。”汉代的王充在《论衡》一书中,同样认为老子的“道”的思想是唯物论的。但是从东汉末年到魏晋时代,情形有了变化。一些学者体会老子哲学所谓“天下万物生于有,有生于无”的妙义,肯定宇宙的本体只有一个“无”,号称玄学。随后佛学传入中国并渐渐兴盛起来,玄与佛合流,因而对“道”的解释,便倒向唯心论方面。宋明时期的理学家同样吸取了佛学与玄学思想,对老子的“道”,仍旧作了唯心主义解释。总之,“道”是唯物还是唯心论,学者们一直有根本不同的看法。
[解读] “道”的革命性和权威性
“道”这个哲学概念,首经老子提出。
这个颇带东方神秘主义的名词,在《老子》一书中频频出现,它有时似乎在显示宇宙天地间一种无比巨大的原动力;有时又在我们面前描画出天地混沌一片的那种亘古蛮荒的状态;或展示天地初分,万物始生,草萌木长的一派蓬勃生机,如此等等。
从老子对“道”的种种构想中,我们完全可以体味到他对“道”的那种近乎虔诚的膜拜和敬畏的由来。老子对“道”的尊崇,完全源于对自然和自然规律的诚信,这完全有别于那个时代视“天”和“上帝”为绝对权威的思想观念。“道”,对老子来说,仅仅是为了彻底摆脱宗教统治而提出的一个新的根据,它比“上帝”更具权威性。
老子的“道”是具有一种对宇宙人生独到的悟解和深刻的体察,这是源于他对自然界的细致入微的观察和一种强烈的神秘主义直觉而至。这种对自然和自然规律的着意关注,是构成老子哲学思想的基石。
源于一种生物学上的意义,人类与自然的关系,无论在精神上亦或在物质方面,从古迄今,都表现为一种近乎原始的依赖性,有如婴儿之对母体。古人有云:“人穷则反本。”这个所谓的“本”,从更广泛的意义上讲,也就是指“自然”,这个人类和万物的母亲。屈原长诗《天问》为什么会提出许多对宇宙天体、历史、神话和人世方面的疑问?当他对政治前途和黑暗现实感到失望时,很自然地会产生一种对自然的返归心态和求助愿望。出于一种对现实的不满和焦虑,推本极源,急切希望找到人在神秘的自然力面前的合适位置。
弗洛伊德的“快乐原则”说,论述了文明给人类带来物质利益的同时,也给人类的精神带来了极为沉重的压抑,这是文明之一大缺憾。然而他所说的人类天生的追求快乐的原则,也正是建立在人和自然的谐合关系上。今天,人们在生活需求和文化思想方面涌动的“回归自然”潮流,不也是从更广泛的意义上解释了古代学家们对宇宙自然竭力尽智地探索的原因吗?由此我们也可理解老子哲学里尊崇自然,否决知识,追求“小国寡民”的政治生活,以及对“道”纯朴本性和神秘的原始动力的渲染的历史原因所在了。
春秋战国时期,王权上移,陪里执命,政治和社会关系均发生了急剧的变化。而当现实社会中的氏族制束缚着历史的发展,旧有的“天命观”和“天道观”同样也束缚着思想的发展。老子形而上学的“道”的提出,是从对自然史的认识上寻找否决“天命观”“天道观”的理论根据,因而具备了中国古代哲学史的革命性和合理性。
Follow your heart
1. To connect
It is our ego that gets in the way of our saying the important things, like, "I’m sorry," "I miss you," "I love you." So when we let go of our ego, let people into our hearts, and begin to share our vulnerabilities, our fears, our authentic selves, we create space for others to do the same. When we embrace our flaws and imperfections, we realize that we aren't alone, and we begin to connect on a level that is impossible to feel just with our eyes, or ears, or ego. We connect on a level that we must feel it with our hearts.
2. To find our true path
The heart has reasons that reason cannot understand. It has reasons that the mind cannot understand. And it has reasons that society, friends, and even ourselves cannot fully understand. But if we don’t follow our hearts, we will often spend the rest of our lives wishing that we did. Our passions — those moments, experiences, and people that feed our soul and make our hearts beat, don’t just go away if we don’t follow them. They fester and eat away at our worthiness. Follow your passions, find your true path, then follow it with all your heart.
3. To allow yourself to heal
Hurt happens. But so does healing. You can't always think your way out of pain and confusion. Sometimes, the best answers come to a relaxed mind and a heart that's in tune with the universe. We often don’t tune in to our hearts because that's where our pain is stored. But when we're brave enough to live life from our heart, not only do we allow our own wounds to heal, but, by sharing our stories, we can touch and heal people’s souls.
4. To love oneself
To love ourselves totally different from massaging our own ego. Ego judges and punishes. Love forgives and heals. Your ego will tell you you’re not enough. Your heart will tell you you’re more than enough. By following our heart and loving ourselves through the ups and downs of life, we learn that we are worthy of love and deserve to feel loved. Without being able to love yourself, it is very difficult to share that love with anyone else. Self-love is not optional. It’s a necessity.
5. To love others
You should never settle for less than a heart flutter. When your ego is in control and all you’re assessing in a partner is looks, financial security, and social status, you miss out on the energy that can only be felt between two souls at the level of the heart. If, in the past, we have been in a rough relationship or through a bad breakup, then we often close our hearts off for fear of being hurt. It takes courage to let your guard down and truly follow your heart. Live with an open heart because you never know who might fall in it.
How to remove "Windows is not Genuine" notification
- Start Command Prompt with "Run as Administrator"
- Under C:\Windows\system32>slmgr/rearm
- Restart Windows
How to solve a math problem?
Step 1: Understand the Problem - (SEE)
- Carefully read the problem.
- Decide what you are trying to do.
- Identify the important data.
- Gather together all available information.
- Consider some possible actions:
- look for a pattern;
- draw a sketch;
- make an organised list;
- simplify the problem;
- guess and check;
- make a table;
- write a number sentence;
- act out the problem;
- identify a sub-task; and
- check the validity of given information.
- Implement a particular plan of attack.
- Revise and modify the plan as needed.
- Create a new plan if necessary.
- Ensure you have used all the important information.
- Decide whether or not the answer makes sense.
- Check that all of the given conditions of the problem are met by the answer.
- Put your answer in a complete sentence.
Problem Solving with Scientific Methods
- State the Problem - A problem can't be solved if it isn't understood.
- Form a Hypothesis - This is a possible solution to the problem formed after gathering information about the problem. The term "research" is properly applied here.
- Test the Hypothesis - An experiment is performed to determine if the hypothesis solves the problem or not. Experiments are done to gather data. It is very important that good observations and records are made during an experiment.
- Collect the Data - This is where you record your observations, measurements, or information from experiment.
- Analyze the Data - Just what does all that data indicate about answering the problem you are solving?
- Draw Conclusions - After examining the data from the experiment, conclusions can be drawn. In it's simplest form, the conclusion will be "yes" the hypothesis was correct, or "no" the hypothesis was not correct.
Java EE vs. Java SE
Java SE
Java SE's API provides the core functionality of the Java programming language. It defines everything from the basic types and objects of the Java programming language to high-level classes that are used for networking, security, database access, graphical user interface (GUI) development, and XML parsing.
In addition to the core API, the Java SE platform consists of a virtual machine, development tools, deployment technologies, and other class libraries and toolkits commonly used in Java technology applications.
Java SE's API provides the core functionality of the Java programming language. It defines everything from the basic types and objects of the Java programming language to high-level classes that are used for networking, security, database access, graphical user interface (GUI) development, and XML parsing.
In addition to the core API, the Java SE platform consists of a virtual machine, development tools, deployment technologies, and other class libraries and toolkits commonly used in Java technology applications.
Java EE
The Java EE platform is built on top of the Java SE platform. The Java EE platform provides an API and runtime environment for developing and running large-scale, multi-tiered, scalable, reliable, and secure network applications.
10 Regrets No One Has At The End Of Life
Life is fleeting and for most of us, the time we pass away is unknown. When the time comes to depart this life, wouldn't you want to have experienced wonder? Challenged yourself and been challenged by situations that saw you rise?
How would it feel to be able to look back and think that you'd made the most of your life and are at peace with how you lived it? To be able to look at the risks, the knocks, the falls and triumphs and know your heart and soul was out there on the court, playing for keeps every single time.
Here's a neat little list of 10 deathbed confessions you will never hear (and why) to inspire you into kick-butt action!
1. I wish I hadn't connected with myself as much as I did.
Meditation, yoga, and mindfulness bring people to a level of consciousness and deep fulfillment that makes each moment a perfect possibility. It's hard to lead a positive life with a negative mindset. Looking within is an ultimate step to living a happy life.
2. I wish I'd spent more time on Facebook.
Seriously, life is so much more enjoyable when your five senses are involved. See, taste, touch, smell, hear. You can only do this when you're out there in the real world.
3. I wish I hadn't treated others with compassion.
When we give selflessly to the world, the universe gives wonderful things back to us in abundance. When we show compassion, we invite compassion to be shown to ourselves. To enrich another's life without expectation is to experience true freedom.
4. I sure wish I hadn't told my husband/wife that I loved them so much.
To travel through life with a partner, a soul mate, a best friend is a wonderful experience. Love never runs out, so the more you give, the more there is to give. The more you accept, the more there is to accept. Never be afraid to say it if you mean it. Go fearlessly where love is involved because you can't wear it out. And if you do leave a loved one behind, your legacy of giving love will forever be cherished.
5. I wish I hadn't spent so much time with my children.
Just as you are a child who would like to be cherished, so too do your children want the same. Your influence helps to shape them today and the influence they make themselves in the future. It's easier for you to support your child today than it is for them to heal from hurt when they are older. Make it count.
6. I really, really, really wished I'd spent more time in the office.
This is among the top two regrets of the dying as documented by Bronnie Ware from Inspiration and Chai. Now that we have more equal numbers in the workforce, it's imperative that we realize that no second chance is coming around. Simplify your life, leave space, and make conscious choices. You do not need the amount of money (and stress) that you think you do.
7. I wish I hadn't experienced Mother Nature as much as I did.
There is nothing as uncontrollable nor as grounding as Mother Nature in her finest. When asked where people feel their most free, the answer almost always involves being outdoors. There is a great reason for this. The energy, and the freedom that nature provides is unparalleled. Like the piece of grass that grows between the cracks of pavement, the endless swell crashing to the shore or the huge swaying trees in an old growth forest. She nourishes, invigorates, and frees those that go and dwell in her.
8. I wish I hadn't treated my body so well.
We may own five or more cars in our lifetime, get them serviced, and make sure the oil is checked every few thousand miles or so, yet we have one vehicle to really live that life in and sometimes we don't treat it one quarter as good. The health and wellness of our physical self is imperative to being able to live life to the fullest. Take steps towards achieving whole health and you will never regret it.
9. I wish I hadn't followed my dreams.
Following your dreams can be really scary. Fear holds more people back from finding their calling finding their calling and living the happiest and most connected life than any other obstacle. Not all dreams are fulfilled, however, the path you are taken on is always the right one for you and overcoming obstacles are what make a man or woman. As Nelson Mandela once said, “Do not judge me by my successes, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again.”
10. I wish I hadn't spent as much time with the ones I love.
Enjoy their company. Share time, joy, stories, connection and warmth. Call your friend, hug your husband. Support and love one another for sorrow shared is half and happiness shared is doubled.
How would it feel to be able to look back and think that you'd made the most of your life and are at peace with how you lived it? To be able to look at the risks, the knocks, the falls and triumphs and know your heart and soul was out there on the court, playing for keeps every single time.
Here's a neat little list of 10 deathbed confessions you will never hear (and why) to inspire you into kick-butt action!
1. I wish I hadn't connected with myself as much as I did.
Meditation, yoga, and mindfulness bring people to a level of consciousness and deep fulfillment that makes each moment a perfect possibility. It's hard to lead a positive life with a negative mindset. Looking within is an ultimate step to living a happy life.
2. I wish I'd spent more time on Facebook.
Seriously, life is so much more enjoyable when your five senses are involved. See, taste, touch, smell, hear. You can only do this when you're out there in the real world.
3. I wish I hadn't treated others with compassion.
When we give selflessly to the world, the universe gives wonderful things back to us in abundance. When we show compassion, we invite compassion to be shown to ourselves. To enrich another's life without expectation is to experience true freedom.
4. I sure wish I hadn't told my husband/wife that I loved them so much.
To travel through life with a partner, a soul mate, a best friend is a wonderful experience. Love never runs out, so the more you give, the more there is to give. The more you accept, the more there is to accept. Never be afraid to say it if you mean it. Go fearlessly where love is involved because you can't wear it out. And if you do leave a loved one behind, your legacy of giving love will forever be cherished.
5. I wish I hadn't spent so much time with my children.
Just as you are a child who would like to be cherished, so too do your children want the same. Your influence helps to shape them today and the influence they make themselves in the future. It's easier for you to support your child today than it is for them to heal from hurt when they are older. Make it count.
6. I really, really, really wished I'd spent more time in the office.
This is among the top two regrets of the dying as documented by Bronnie Ware from Inspiration and Chai. Now that we have more equal numbers in the workforce, it's imperative that we realize that no second chance is coming around. Simplify your life, leave space, and make conscious choices. You do not need the amount of money (and stress) that you think you do.
7. I wish I hadn't experienced Mother Nature as much as I did.
There is nothing as uncontrollable nor as grounding as Mother Nature in her finest. When asked where people feel their most free, the answer almost always involves being outdoors. There is a great reason for this. The energy, and the freedom that nature provides is unparalleled. Like the piece of grass that grows between the cracks of pavement, the endless swell crashing to the shore or the huge swaying trees in an old growth forest. She nourishes, invigorates, and frees those that go and dwell in her.
8. I wish I hadn't treated my body so well.
We may own five or more cars in our lifetime, get them serviced, and make sure the oil is checked every few thousand miles or so, yet we have one vehicle to really live that life in and sometimes we don't treat it one quarter as good. The health and wellness of our physical self is imperative to being able to live life to the fullest. Take steps towards achieving whole health and you will never regret it.
9. I wish I hadn't followed my dreams.
Following your dreams can be really scary. Fear holds more people back from finding their calling finding their calling and living the happiest and most connected life than any other obstacle. Not all dreams are fulfilled, however, the path you are taken on is always the right one for you and overcoming obstacles are what make a man or woman. As Nelson Mandela once said, “Do not judge me by my successes, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again.”
10. I wish I hadn't spent as much time with the ones I love.
Enjoy their company. Share time, joy, stories, connection and warmth. Call your friend, hug your husband. Support and love one another for sorrow shared is half and happiness shared is doubled.
Remember this...
Take time once in a while to just enjoy the moment...
When someone tries to surprise you, let them think they got away with it...
Always try to do what you are taught it can sometimes lead to beautiful things...
Try to give a gentle lift to a friend in need...
Search for the best route to what you're hoping for...
No goal is too hard to attain when you persevere...
Sometimes it's better to watch from a distance and plan your next move carefully...
Get to know someone first before accepting that he may be your enemy...
Be careful what you put into your body, health is too important to ignore...
Present yourself well and mind your manners...
Remember, no matter how much you resemble your siblings, you are still unique.
Whenever possible, jump and clap for joy!
Always keep in mind that the world is filled with marvels... look for them
You never know what awaits around the next bend.
Be kinder than necessary
For everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.
THE SECRET TO HAPPINESS IS A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOUR AND A BAD MEMORY.
A sharp tongue can cut your own throat.
If you want your dreams to come true, you mustn't oversleep.
Of all the things you wear, your expression is the most important.
The best vitamin for making friends..... B1.
The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.
The heaviest thing you can carry is a grudge.
One thing you can give and still keep...is your word.
You lie the loudest when you lie to yourself
If you lack the courage to start, you have already finished.
One thing you can't recycle is wasted time.
Ideas won't work unless 'You' do.
Your mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open.
The pursuit of happiness is the chase of a lifetime! It is never too late to become what you might have been.
Life is too short to wake up with regrets.
So love the people who treat you right.. Forget about the ones who don't.
Believe everything happens for a reason.
If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands.
If it changes your life, let it.
Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.
Sometimes we get so busy with our own lives and problems that we may not even notice that we've let them fly away.
Sometimes we are so caught up in who's right and who's wrong that we forget what's right and wrong.
Happiness is...
How do we explain this paradox and what are some simple things we can do to bring more happiness into our lives?
The causes of our moods are complex, and not entirely under our control. About 40% of happiness derives from our genes. You are born with a certain temperament that makes you more likely to see the sunshine or the clouds. Researchers call this our biological set-point. Some of us are naturally more optimistic or extroverted, which helps us connect with others and get out in the world, leading to more opportunities for happiness, and a stronger support system. When good things happen, they make us happier for a while, but then we adjust our expectations and begin to take them for granted. Researchers call this hedonic adaptation and estimate that it takes, on average, about two years to adapt back to our regular happiness level after a major positive life event. In that time, we can go from being giddy in love to complaining that our partner won¡¯t do the dishes, or from celebrating our new home to complaining about the utility bill.
Despite these limitations, there are things you can do that have been proven to increase your enjoyment of life. Some involve a change of mental focus. Others involve building certain types of relationships, and still others involve learning and practicing new habits and ways of behaving. To be happy in the long-term, we may have to stretch ourselves in the short-term. A willingness to try new things, or to see old things in new ways, may be a prerequisite for lasting happiness.
Below are some rules you can follow for a happier life:
Focus on Lasting Meaning, Not Momentary Feelings
Things that make us feel good in the moment may actually end up being unhealthy for us, creating guilt, remorse and negative consequences down the road. All types of addictions fall into this category, as does mindless materialism, and grabbing things for ourselves without considering others or giving back. We may feel good or have a rush of excitement in the moment, but in the long run, we worsen our mood with debt, health problems, shame and guilt, or ruined relationships. Feeling good in the moment, and the next, and the next, is not much in our control; life has its inevitable mundane moments and ups and downs. On the other hand, if we focus on building a meaningful life in which we act authentically and are guided by our core values and the things that intrinsically inspire us, we can achieve more lasting happiness. The feeling may not be as intense as a momentary high, but it is deeper and more enduring. When we build authentic relationships and contribute to our family and community, we feel good about ourselves, even when we face financial or health problems.
Build and Nurture a Support Network
Research has long shown that loving relationships with partners, friends, and family make us happier and healthier. Having loved ones we trust, who will support and comfort us through the hard times, makes us feel good about ourselves and more hopeful about the future. The good news is that you don¡¯t need a village¡ªjust a few people who genuinely care about you can be enough. When it comes to social support, quality trumps quantity. So focus on deepening your relationships by supporting others and being more willing to be vulnerable with friends, if they are open to it. And spend less time with superficial friends unless you are doing meaningful things with them, such as volunteering or supporting each others¡¯ careers. Remember also that building relationships takes time and you may have to face setbacks in the quest to find true friends or partners.
Deliberately Savor the Good Times
Our brains have a natural negative bias. Survival is more important to our brains than happiness, leading to a natural threat focus. Good and peaceful moments are quickly forgotten or missed because we are worrying about some impending deadline or relationship problem. We need to practice every day to rewire our brains for happiness. This means deliberately focusing attention on the positive parts of our day, such as a morning hug from our spouse, a goal we accomplished, or the cute bird in the tree outside our window. Research also shows that we can extend our enjoyment of special times by deliberately thinking about them, taking photos and displaying them on our desks or in our homes, and talking about them to others. (Facebook and blogs are useful tools for this type of sharing.) Reading about others¡¯ meaningful experiences can also give us a piece of the happiness pie, especially if they are people we care about.
Find a Way to Feel In Control
A key piece of the happiness puzzle is autonomy. We all have a natural need to feel in control of our lives and decisions. If the circumstances of our lives are largely out of our control, we have a harder time feeling happy. The exception is if we are religious or spiritual. Feeling that a powerful and benevolent higher power has our best interests at heart and that everything happens for a good reason can allow the fear-focused parts of our brains to let go and relax. If we are not religious or spiritual, we can still feel a sense of control by trusting in our our support network, or in our own ability to adapt and learn new skills, or by seeing ourselves as competent. Focusing on past successes can help. It can also help to create new experiences of challenge and competency. This is the idea behind wilderness camps or empowerment weekends that end with a fire walk. But you don¡¯t have to go to extremes to feel competent and in control simply setting some specific, manageable goals and tracking your progress in accomplishing them can have the same effect.
Indulge Your Curiosity
When we have a fixed idea of how things need to be in order for us to be happy, we actually limit our happiness. Similarly, if we keep doing the same things and never challenge ourselves, hedonic adaptation will kick in and we will find ourselves stuck in a rut. Our brains naturally seeks novelty and challenge. Happiness creeps up on us in unexpected moments when we find something new and interesting, or when we follow our interests and let things unfold. When I moved to Marin County, some of my happiest times were when I explored a new trail and found a grove of wildflowers or a mountain stream. Another way to create happy experiences is to look at familiar things in new ways like the day I decided to take photos of the rustic mailboxes in my old neighborhood, or when I found interesting pictures of rusty and refurbished objects on Pinterest. Research by Todd Kashdan shows that curious people are happier and rate their lives as more meaningful.
3 Lessons You Can Learn From Failure
Gratitude gladiator, here’s the deal: Life will leave you heartbroken. It’s guaranteed. And just to make this a real downer—this heartbreak will probably happen more than once.
You will get hurt.
You’ll have regrets and wish you could do it over.
You’ll wince in shame and crouch beneath the weight of mediocrity.
You will fail.
This is a given.
You will be dis-invited. Worse yet, you’ll be denied outright.
You’ll show up late and lose out with him or her or them.
You'll give up too soon and cry heavy, hot tears of frustration.
Misplaced anger and rage will fill your heart and you’ll say things you wish you hadn’t.
You’ll want to take it back, but it will be too late.
People will criticize you and judge you and compare you to your competition.
Doubt will paralyze you and an undeniably rich opportunity will pass by.
You’ll wish you had said:
I love you, don't go. I didn’t see it before but I was wrong and I’m sorry.
There will be scars.
And they will be on display.
But instead of failure after failure, you will (finally) learn the lesson.
You will mine this heartbreaking experience for the gem of wisdom.
You’ll drink it with dear thirst and curiosity and rise to your rightful, magnificent glory.
You will rise again the way you most desire.
And this time pride will be your wing-woman.
You will never, ever, as long as you live, escape heartbreak, failure, or pain.
This is absolutely certain. It is the Universe’s benevolent way of helping us ascend to a higher consciousness. To grow.
Pain and failure is certain.
So this begs the question “Why spend any time trying to avoid the unavoidable?”
Peel the ancient armor from your skin, your protection is not as necessary as you think. Status quo is an illusion and you’ve been duped.
Shift your energy instead to getting the most out of life.
Really, failure can be an opportunity to learn + grow + s-t-r-e-t-c-h your beliefs and abilities.
Here are three heart-smartening ways you can make the most of your dust-ups:
1. (Finally) learn the lesson the Universe is trying to teach you.
When we make the same mistakes and fail in the same way over and over and over, it’s usually The Universe trying to teach us something. And it’ll keep trying until we get it. What lesson are you not learning? That you shouldn’t date married men? That you shouldn’t work in that industry? That you shouldn’t have more than two drinks at networking events? Take a clear-eyed look at your failures and learn the lesson you’re being taught.
2. Re-evaluate your desires.
Sometimes we fail because we don’t really want that thing we’re going after. We engage in self-sabotage because we’re chasing something for the wrong reason—we’ve been told it’s what we want, everybody else is chasing it, we’re good at this thing. If you’re failing again and again at something, check in with yourself. Do you really, actually want this? Maybe what you want is something different and it’s in a different direction.
3. Take a (mini) break and focus your efforts elsewhere for a minute.
If you just made a royal mess of your personal life, take a deep cleansing breath, close your Match.com account, and spent a month really focusing on networking and promoting your services. If you just lost a big client, take two weeks to drink green juice and run in the hills. Point your energy in another—equally important—direction for a little bit. You’ll regain your confidence while still building towards the life you want.
You’ll fail. It’s a given. But you can get back up and keep going.
You will get hurt.
You’ll have regrets and wish you could do it over.
You’ll wince in shame and crouch beneath the weight of mediocrity.
You will fail.
This is a given.
You will be dis-invited. Worse yet, you’ll be denied outright.
You’ll show up late and lose out with him or her or them.
You'll give up too soon and cry heavy, hot tears of frustration.
Misplaced anger and rage will fill your heart and you’ll say things you wish you hadn’t.
You’ll want to take it back, but it will be too late.
People will criticize you and judge you and compare you to your competition.
Doubt will paralyze you and an undeniably rich opportunity will pass by.
You’ll wish you had said:
I love you, don't go. I didn’t see it before but I was wrong and I’m sorry.
There will be scars.
And they will be on display.
But instead of failure after failure, you will (finally) learn the lesson.
You will mine this heartbreaking experience for the gem of wisdom.
You’ll drink it with dear thirst and curiosity and rise to your rightful, magnificent glory.
You will rise again the way you most desire.
And this time pride will be your wing-woman.
You will never, ever, as long as you live, escape heartbreak, failure, or pain.
This is absolutely certain. It is the Universe’s benevolent way of helping us ascend to a higher consciousness. To grow.
Pain and failure is certain.
So this begs the question “Why spend any time trying to avoid the unavoidable?”
Peel the ancient armor from your skin, your protection is not as necessary as you think. Status quo is an illusion and you’ve been duped.
Shift your energy instead to getting the most out of life.
Really, failure can be an opportunity to learn + grow + s-t-r-e-t-c-h your beliefs and abilities.
Here are three heart-smartening ways you can make the most of your dust-ups:
1. (Finally) learn the lesson the Universe is trying to teach you.
When we make the same mistakes and fail in the same way over and over and over, it’s usually The Universe trying to teach us something. And it’ll keep trying until we get it. What lesson are you not learning? That you shouldn’t date married men? That you shouldn’t work in that industry? That you shouldn’t have more than two drinks at networking events? Take a clear-eyed look at your failures and learn the lesson you’re being taught.
2. Re-evaluate your desires.
Sometimes we fail because we don’t really want that thing we’re going after. We engage in self-sabotage because we’re chasing something for the wrong reason—we’ve been told it’s what we want, everybody else is chasing it, we’re good at this thing. If you’re failing again and again at something, check in with yourself. Do you really, actually want this? Maybe what you want is something different and it’s in a different direction.
3. Take a (mini) break and focus your efforts elsewhere for a minute.
If you just made a royal mess of your personal life, take a deep cleansing breath, close your Match.com account, and spent a month really focusing on networking and promoting your services. If you just lost a big client, take two weeks to drink green juice and run in the hills. Point your energy in another—equally important—direction for a little bit. You’ll regain your confidence while still building towards the life you want.
You’ll fail. It’s a given. But you can get back up and keep going.
7 Ways To Control Your Anxiety So It Doesn't Control You
If you regularly struggle with stress and anxiety, the holidays might take your angst up a notch. Let's see: holiday parties, hosting duties, cooking, parties at your kids’ school, shopping for gifts, spending more money, getting your cards in the mail in time, traveling ... YIKES!
This time of year can be stressful even for a person with the brightest outlook. The holidays tend to shine a light on our lives and if you already feel anxious (or if your life is a far cry from a Hallmark Christmas movie), the holiday season can be even tougher. How can you find some enjoyment and keep your anxiety in check? Try my seven steps for a less anxious you. (Use these tips year round, too!)
1. Stop comparing yourself to others.
When you compare your life to others, you are giving up your power. Everyone is on a different path. People have wins or hardships at different points in their lives. People have difficulties they don’t share. You might think others have it better, but you don’t have the full story. It can be easy to compare your life to others with social media showcasing what everyone is doing at every minute of the day (and usually people post about the good things!), but I have an easy trick to take your power back.
Next time you begin to compare yourself to someone else, tell yourself this: “I only compare me to me.” And switch your brain back to focusing on you. Only compete with yourself to be a better you or have an improved life. How can you be a better you? Ask yourself: What's a better thought you can choose? What's a positive thing you can tell yourself? What are you doing right? How can you do more of that? Comparing yourself is passive and gets you nowhere. Focusing on you is active and can get you where you want to be.
2. Don't disregard gratitude.
You might be groaning about gratitude as it's a word that pops up a lot (especially this time of year), but gratitude is the secret to a happier, less anxious you. When you focus on what you have instead of what you don't have and take time to relish in all the good things in your life, you can’t help but feel good. When you practice gratitude, you start training your brain to scan for all the wonderful things about your life and doing so improves your mood little by little.
3. Make sure you aren't going around trying to please everyone else while sacrificing your wants and needs.
It isn’t selfish to set boundaries, say no when you need to, and lead the kind of life you desire. You aren’t good to anyone else if you're running on empty. Take care of you and make sure you invest in your own well-being. When is the last time you did something that you enjoy? Can you even name three things you love doing and the last time you did them? Get them on your calendar today.
4. Forget perfect.
I call myself a recovering perfectionist. Today I focus on my priorities and what matters to me most, and I toss the notion of perfect out the window. Perfection is elusive and not obtainable. Pursuing perfection sets you up to feel defeated. Accept that you'll have days that are far from perfect and learn to laugh at the funny things that go wrong at exactly the wrong time. Life is so much more enjoyable when you expect it to be flawed and fabulous than roll out in some tidy perfect order. Let go and enjoy.
5. Grab that journal.
Maybe you have no idea where to start. Yet studies show the act of writing down our thoughts and feelings can be extremely cathartic. Just start writing, even if it's a list of your thoughts. Pen and paper can help you process what you're feeling and provide you with a non-judgmental place to vent, express, or gain awareness. You really can write your way to a better mood!
6. Move your body. You never regret a good sweat.
I'm not just saying this as a fitness coach. Exercise is scientifically proven to elevate your mood. It releases endorphin and it can give you mental clarity. If anxiety is driving your moods, it might be more challenging to get yourself to exercise, but once you do, I guarantee you'll feel better—especially if you commit to exercising regularly. There is just something about exercise that gives you a sense of accomplishment that you can use to tackle other challenges in your life.
7. Connect with other people.
If you struggle with anxiety, you may not feel like putting yourself into social situations or being around other people, but isolating yourself socially is the worst thing you can do. Connecting with other can help you realize that everyone has struggles and people are there for you. Isolation can make a negative mood worse. See a friend, call a family member or just smile at strangers passing by. Connection can give you an outlet to talk and an immediate lift.
Try these seven things, plan for seven hours of sleep and fuel your body with good for you food. Actively working to reduce your anxiety level will put you in the control seat and give you hope. You can find ways to enjoy the holidays this season if you proactively take steps to reduce your anxiousness and stress. Your holiday may not be perfect—but here’s a little secret: No one’s holiday is perfect. Aim for enjoyable moments and find joy in life's small pleasures.
This time of year can be stressful even for a person with the brightest outlook. The holidays tend to shine a light on our lives and if you already feel anxious (or if your life is a far cry from a Hallmark Christmas movie), the holiday season can be even tougher. How can you find some enjoyment and keep your anxiety in check? Try my seven steps for a less anxious you. (Use these tips year round, too!)
1. Stop comparing yourself to others.
When you compare your life to others, you are giving up your power. Everyone is on a different path. People have wins or hardships at different points in their lives. People have difficulties they don’t share. You might think others have it better, but you don’t have the full story. It can be easy to compare your life to others with social media showcasing what everyone is doing at every minute of the day (and usually people post about the good things!), but I have an easy trick to take your power back.
Next time you begin to compare yourself to someone else, tell yourself this: “I only compare me to me.” And switch your brain back to focusing on you. Only compete with yourself to be a better you or have an improved life. How can you be a better you? Ask yourself: What's a better thought you can choose? What's a positive thing you can tell yourself? What are you doing right? How can you do more of that? Comparing yourself is passive and gets you nowhere. Focusing on you is active and can get you where you want to be.
2. Don't disregard gratitude.
You might be groaning about gratitude as it's a word that pops up a lot (especially this time of year), but gratitude is the secret to a happier, less anxious you. When you focus on what you have instead of what you don't have and take time to relish in all the good things in your life, you can’t help but feel good. When you practice gratitude, you start training your brain to scan for all the wonderful things about your life and doing so improves your mood little by little.
3. Make sure you aren't going around trying to please everyone else while sacrificing your wants and needs.
It isn’t selfish to set boundaries, say no when you need to, and lead the kind of life you desire. You aren’t good to anyone else if you're running on empty. Take care of you and make sure you invest in your own well-being. When is the last time you did something that you enjoy? Can you even name three things you love doing and the last time you did them? Get them on your calendar today.
4. Forget perfect.
I call myself a recovering perfectionist. Today I focus on my priorities and what matters to me most, and I toss the notion of perfect out the window. Perfection is elusive and not obtainable. Pursuing perfection sets you up to feel defeated. Accept that you'll have days that are far from perfect and learn to laugh at the funny things that go wrong at exactly the wrong time. Life is so much more enjoyable when you expect it to be flawed and fabulous than roll out in some tidy perfect order. Let go and enjoy.
5. Grab that journal.
Maybe you have no idea where to start. Yet studies show the act of writing down our thoughts and feelings can be extremely cathartic. Just start writing, even if it's a list of your thoughts. Pen and paper can help you process what you're feeling and provide you with a non-judgmental place to vent, express, or gain awareness. You really can write your way to a better mood!
6. Move your body. You never regret a good sweat.
I'm not just saying this as a fitness coach. Exercise is scientifically proven to elevate your mood. It releases endorphin and it can give you mental clarity. If anxiety is driving your moods, it might be more challenging to get yourself to exercise, but once you do, I guarantee you'll feel better—especially if you commit to exercising regularly. There is just something about exercise that gives you a sense of accomplishment that you can use to tackle other challenges in your life.
7. Connect with other people.
If you struggle with anxiety, you may not feel like putting yourself into social situations or being around other people, but isolating yourself socially is the worst thing you can do. Connecting with other can help you realize that everyone has struggles and people are there for you. Isolation can make a negative mood worse. See a friend, call a family member or just smile at strangers passing by. Connection can give you an outlet to talk and an immediate lift.
Try these seven things, plan for seven hours of sleep and fuel your body with good for you food. Actively working to reduce your anxiety level will put you in the control seat and give you hope. You can find ways to enjoy the holidays this season if you proactively take steps to reduce your anxiousness and stress. Your holiday may not be perfect—but here’s a little secret: No one’s holiday is perfect. Aim for enjoyable moments and find joy in life's small pleasures.
Testing the MySQL Server
B:\mysql\bin\mysqladmin -u root -p version
Installing MySQL 5.7.10 on Windows 7 Using a Zip Archive
- Extract the main archive to the desired install directory (B:)
- Create an option file
- Choose a MySQL server type
- Initialize MySQL
- Start the MySQL server
- Secure the default user accounts
Now is Always The Time To:
STEP OUT OF THE RUSH AND INTO YOUR OWN LIFE
Dare to slow down. Just do it. Here’s help. See that even at a million miles an hour anxious thoughts and feelings still take you no-where. If you want to find what is timeless, dare to live as though you have all the time in the world. Go ahead. Step out of the rush. Step out Now.
TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE EXPERIENCE
The way you feel toward what you meet in life is a direct expression of who you are. And who you are is exactly the same as what you secretly value. Being willing to see you feel the way you do, because you treasure what you do, is what it means to take responsibility for your life.
REFUSE TO BE SELF COMPROMISING
Drop any thought or action that creates conflict in the present moment for the promise of a better feeling to come. Your True Nature is Now. There is no later. You can’t be divided and be content. Choose to be whole. Begin by consciously refusing to compromise yourself.
REMEMBER YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE IN THE WORLD
It may feel like it, but you’re not the only one who suffers! That’s why you mustn’t be afraid to take a good look at — and really consider — another human being. This will help you be less wrongly concerned with the way you feel about yourself — which will come as welcome relief. Remember, you’re not the only one in the world.
GO BEYOND THE BEST THAT YOU THINK YOU CAN
Anybody can do what everybody else does — which is usually the minimum to get the maximum. You do more. Take the step you’re sure you can’t. You’ll discover that the “you” who could not is only a thought that believes it can not. See this. Then get going beyond yourself.
REALIZE THERE’S NO GAIN IN BLAME
Dare to slow down. Just do it. Here’s help. See that even at a million miles an hour anxious thoughts and feelings still take you no-where. If you want to find what is timeless, dare to live as though you have all the time in the world. Go ahead. Step out of the rush. Step out Now.
TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE EXPERIENCE
The way you feel toward what you meet in life is a direct expression of who you are. And who you are is exactly the same as what you secretly value. Being willing to see you feel the way you do, because you treasure what you do, is what it means to take responsibility for your life.
REFUSE TO BE SELF COMPROMISING
Drop any thought or action that creates conflict in the present moment for the promise of a better feeling to come. Your True Nature is Now. There is no later. You can’t be divided and be content. Choose to be whole. Begin by consciously refusing to compromise yourself.
REMEMBER YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE IN THE WORLD
It may feel like it, but you’re not the only one who suffers! That’s why you mustn’t be afraid to take a good look at — and really consider — another human being. This will help you be less wrongly concerned with the way you feel about yourself — which will come as welcome relief. Remember, you’re not the only one in the world.
GO BEYOND THE BEST THAT YOU THINK YOU CAN
Anybody can do what everybody else does — which is usually the minimum to get the maximum. You do more. Take the step you’re sure you can’t. You’ll discover that the “you” who could not is only a thought that believes it can not. See this. Then get going beyond yourself.
REALIZE THERE’S NO GAIN IN BLAME
Eclipse platform overview
The Eclipse platform itself is structured as subsystems which are implemented in one or more plug-ins. The subsystems are built on top of a small runtime engine. The figure below depicts a simplified view.
Workbench
The term Workbench refers to the desktop development environment. The Workbench aims to achieve seamless tool integration and controlled openness by providing a common paradigm for the creation, management, and navigation of workspace resources.Each Workbench window contains one or more perspectives. Perspectives contain views and editors and control what appears in certain menus and tool bars. More than one Workbench window can exist on the desktop at any given time.
10 Obstacles to overcome in 2016
- Distractions.
- Fear of failure.
- Discomfort with the difficulty/confusion.
- Excuses to give up.
- Perfectionism.
- The urge to switch.
- Interruptions.
- Not enough time.
- Being tired.
- Negative self-talk.
What is checksum in java?
A checksum or hash sum is a small-size datum from a block of digital data for the purpose of detecting errors which may have been introduced during its transmission or storage. It is usually applied to an installation file after it is received from the download server. By themselves checksums are often used to verify data integrity, but should not be relied upon to also verify data authenticity.
The actual procedure which yields the checksum, given a data input is called a checksum function or checksum algorithm. Depending on its design goals, a good checksum algorithm will usually output a significantly different value, even for small changes made to the input. This is especially true of cryptographic hash functions, which may be used to detect many data corruption errors and verify overall data integrity; if the computed checksum for the current data input matches the stored value of a previously computed checksum, there is a very high probability the data has not been accidentally altered or corrupted.
Checksum functions are related to hash functions, fingerprints, randomization functions, and cryptographic hash functions. However, each of those concepts has different applications and therefore different design goals. Checksums are used as cryptographic primitives in larger authentication algorithms. For cryptographic systems with these two specific design goals, see HMAC.
Check digits and parity bits are special cases of checksums, appropriate for small blocks of data (such asSocial Security numbers, bank account numbers, computer words, single bytes, etc.). Some error-correcting codes are based on special checksums which not only detect common errors but also allow the original data to be recovered in certain cases.
Packages included in Eclipse IDE for Java EE and Java Developers
Eclipse IDE for Java EE Developers package includes:
- Data Tools Platform
- Eclipse Git Team Provider
- Eclipse Java Development Tools
- Eclipse Java EE Developer Tools
- JavaScript Development Tools
- Maven Integration for Eclipse
- Mylyn Task List
- Eclipse Plug-in Development Environment
- Remote System Explorer
- Code Recommenders Tools for Java Developers
- Eclipse XML Editors and Tools
Eclipse IDE for Java Developers package includes:
- Eclipse Git Team Provider
- Eclipse Java Development Tools
- Maven Integration for Eclipse
- Mylyn Task List
- Code Recommenders Tools for Java Developers
- WindowBuilder Core
- Eclipse XML Editors and Tools
20 habits to be happy
- Surround yourself with other happy people.
- Smile when you mean it.
- Cultivate resilience.
- Try to be happy.
- Be mindful of the good.
- Appreciate simple pleasures.
- Devote some of your time to giving.
- Let yourself lose track of time.
- Spend money on other people.
- make a point to listen.
- Uphold in-person connections.
- Look on the bright side.
- Unplug.
- Get spiritual.
- Make exercise a priority.
- Go outside.
- Sleep more.
- Start a new hobby.
- Walk the walk.
- Spend time with your pets.
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